Your Guide to Being Resilient
Moxie, grit, the ability to bounce back, call it what you will, but when adversity strikes, you want to be able to recover. Explore practices to be fully present with whatever challenges come your way, and to roll with the storms of life, becoming stronger and more capable as you do.
Often, the pains of life arrive as a deluge. When they sweep into the corners of our soul, we are often left feeling unmoored. Here are some ways to navigate that delicate and vulnerable space.
Your ability to bounce back is impacted by your ability to be fully present with the grief or the emotion that knocked you sideways to begin with. Fully experiencing the emotions that accompany the trials of life is uncomfortable, but to bypass experiencing them does not serve you.
Opening ourselves to life means becoming vulnerable, which means that at some point we will suffer loss and pain. Being achingly present to the experience helps us recover. Read more
For more on facing a broken heart:
- How to Heal a Broken Heart
- Yoga For Emotional Trauma
- Kintsugi: The Art of Appreciating our Brokenness
- 8 Things Not to Do After—or During—A Break Up
"Aching ones, be gentle with yourself.
The heart is a vessel of alchemy.
Place your pain within its chamber,
and whatever you do
don’t close the lid."
~Deborah Anne Quibell
Want to be more resilient? Build your resilience now and you'll have more resources in hard times. Start by being mindful with your emotions and learning to focus on ‘moments that glisten.’ Read more
Specific lifestyle habits can help you build resilience. Discover how bringing those habits into your daily routine creates elasticity—the ability to stretch—so that when you are faced with adversity, you have the space within yourself to be present and engage with the challenge rather than be broken by it. Read more
Self-care, and wellness in general, are having a moment. Given how self-care has been commercialized, it can seem unattainable for average people trying to get through their day. Self-care may also suffer from an image problem: Taking care of the self can seem thoroughly narcissistic.
Feelings of low self-worth compound the issue. For self-care to work, we need to honor our worthiness—our inherent value as a receiver of this kind of attention.
Examining self-care more closely, we can see that the deep, intentional, and abiding dedication to attending to the needs of the self is at the core of being whole. The right kinds of self-attendance build inner strength and fuel the capacity to access our full set of resources, mentally, physically, and emotionally. Read more
For more on self-care:
"Everyone and everything in my life benefits when I feel full of life and energy.
I can choose to be fully present in each moment.
I recognize the strength of my body, mind, and spirit."
Sometimes we need to get at the emotional root of pain to help us recover. Learn how to care for your body in a more mindful way and start developing the habits that build resilience in the body. Read more
For more on finding resilience in and through the body:
"We are complex beings, and our path to healing and to creating space and resilience in our body involves a multilayered approach. Having the strength and suppleness to recover involves acknowledging this complexity and exploring our full range of experience." ~Kalia Kelmenson