Cultivating Intimacy Through Meditation
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Think of the last time you experienced pain. When an injury occurs and your body sends you pain signals, they are incredibly useful. They protect you from further injury and are important messengers that trigger physiological responses that have evolved to keep you safe.
What happens in your body in response to pain is complex. The cascading effect of chemical messengers in the form of hormones and neurotransmitters is the focus of volumes of research and theories. It is not a simple process and how you experience, cope, and manage pain is entirely unique to you.
There is however some understanding of how the way you think about your pain can keep you trapped in a vicious cycle. The fear-avoidance model describes how you can get caught in an unhelpful loop with your pain. Your fear of pain causes you to avoid a variety of activities, many of which are perfectly safe for you and highly beneficial for both your physical and mental health.
Part of this mental loop involves catastrophic thinking, where you believe that the outcome of a given activity will likely cause you great pain. You become ruled by your fear of pain. Thoughts of engaging in nearly any kind of activity fire up your imagination of all the possible terrible outcomes. In your mind, an overexaggerated prediction of the amount of pain that will result from even the most basic of activities leads to inactivity, withdrawal from friends and family, depression, and often anxiety.
Constantly scanning your body for cues that it’s hurting magnifies any subtle pain messages and negates any other types of messages.
Another part of the loop involves hypervigilance to pain, or a heightened state of attention to the perception or even the possibility of pain. Living in this state of high alert keeps your sympathetic nervous system (the fight, flight, or freeze response) endlessly activated. You might recognize that feeling when the smallest sound makes you jump.
Spending most of your time in a heightened state of response is exhausting on your body. All of your resources are spent in an effort to keep you ready to do one of three things: fight, flight, or freeze. Your body pumps out adrenaline, cortisol, and a host of other substances, rallying the troops for battle.
This is not a state of being that supports healing. Constantly scanning your body for cues that it’s hurting magnifies any subtle pain messages and negates any other types of messages. It also makes you afraid to engage in any kind of activity, which reinforces your belief that chronic pain can only result in suffering.
You can end this vicious cycle and begin to move toward recovery. Here are some of the ways.
[Listen to: “Guided Meditation: The Healing Waters.”]
There is no one clear path for everyone that will break them out of the feedback loop that keeps them suffering from chronic pain. As an individual, you will have to find your own way to freedom, but you don’t have to do it alone. Find a support group or a therapist that can help you navigate your path back to a full life.
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