Big Life Decision? How to Determine What You Actually Want
So you think you know what you want: But are you sure?
When I was much younger and pondering having children as a life’s path, my girlfriend who had children said, “You should only have kids if you can’t live without having kids—it requires that much commitment.” When I really thought about it, I began to realize that while I had all the proper maternal instincts, the pressure to be a mom was more of a cultural society thing than my own real goal. I could live without making that choice. Ever since, I chose to “birth books and borrow babies” instead.
Marriage and long-term relationships require that much commitment too, and yet we often make the decision not because we really want the relationship we are in or the person we are with, but because we want the fantasy dream of a long-term loving relationship with someone.