Befriending Death: Creative Ways to Explore Mortality and Why It Matters

Befriending death is not a single event but a lifelong journey. Explore practical ways to make peace with mortality.

For centuries, cultures around the world have engaged in practices that prepare individuals to face death with acceptance and understanding. From ritualized ceremonies to meditative traditions, these practices emphasize death as a natural and sacred part of life. In today’s death-denying and death-phobic societies, we lack such frameworks, leaving many unprepared for the realities of mortality. Cultivating a personal relationship with death is an essential step toward reclaiming this wisdom. To live fully and authentically, we must explore our own fears, questions, and beliefs surrounding death. Befriending death—embracing its inevitability, mystery, and transformative power—offers us this opportunity.

By exploring mortality with curiosity, we challenge the pervasive norms of avoidance and fear, replacing them with emotional awareness and a deeper understanding of life’s purpose and interconnectedness. Below, we share intentional, creative practices for building a conscious relationship with death and understanding its role in our lives.

Why Befriending Death Matters

To Build Emotional Awareness

Consciously confronting our own mortality allows us to cultivate emotional mindfulness and sensitivity. By facing our fears and exploring death, we develop the inner calm and strength needed to navigate life’s most challenging transitions, and all the "little deaths" that can be found in our daily lives.

To Cultivate Authentic Presence

When we have explored our own relationship with death, we can show up fully and without pretense. This allows us to hold space with authenticity and vulnerability, fostering trust and deeper connections with others. In effect, our peace with mortality encourages openness and acceptance in those around us.

To Normalize Discussions About Mortality

When we are comfortable with death, we counter societal death-phobia and naturally create space for others to discuss it without fear or shame. This can help us have important conversations about end-of-life decisions, legacy work, and the profound act of letting go.

Creative Practices for Befriending Death

Curious what befriending death can look like in daily life? The following practices provide thoughtful opportunities to explore mortality with intention:

Yoga Nidra: Releasing the Body with Gratitude

Yoga nidra, or yogic sleep, is a powerful guided meditation that gently reflects the process of dying by guiding us to release awareness of the physical body with gratitude and ease.

Although any restorative pose can be utilized, Savasana (corpse pose) seems quite fitting for this practice.
This practice systematically brings awareness to each part of your body.
With deep gratitude, you release attachment to each part, acknowledging its role in supporting your life.

This practice of surrender deepens our capacity to accept the process of death as a natural, peaceful transition.

Death Education

Fear often stems from the unknown. By learning about the practical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of death, we replace uncertainty with understanding. Death education can include:

Exploring end-of-life care options, including hospice, palliative care, and green burial practices.
Investigating cultural, spiritual, and historical perspectives on death and dying.
Training to be a death doula within a community of like-minded, curious human beings.

Knowledge empowers us to approach mortality with confidence, countering the societal tendencies to deny and fear death.

Service: Volunteering and Sitting Vigil

One of the most impactful ways to befriend death is through service in community. Volunteering with hospice organizations or sitting vigil with those nearing the end of life offers a direct, compassionate experience of mortality. By being present for others during their transition, we gain precious insights into death's realities and deepen our sense of connection and purpose.

Hospice Volunteering: Providing companionship or support to those in hospice care fosters empathy and understanding.
Vigil Sitting: Bearing witness to the dying process teaches us about presence, patience, and the sacred nature of life’s final moments.

Sacred Plant and Animal Medicine

Plant and animal medicines have been used for millennia to expand human consciousness and connect us to the metaphysical realms. For example, indigenous cultures have long incorporated sacred plants like ayahuasca and peyote in ceremonial practices to foster spiritual insights and confront mortality. Similarly, animals such as the toad (through its secretions) have provided consciousness-expanding experiences that offer glimpses into life beyond the physical realm. When approached with care, support, and reverence, these medicines can reveal how fragile and miraculous this life is.

Deep Spiritual Journeys: Some plant medicines (such as ayahuasca or psilocybin) invite us into transformative experiences that reshape our understanding of reality, mortality, and the continuum of life.
Gentle Subtle Exploration: Other plant allies offer softer, more gradual awakenings, helping us ease into a relationship with mortality over time.

For those who prefer non-substance-based exploration, shamanic journeying through practices like drumming, holotropic breath work, and intention-setting provides a powerful means of accessing spiritual insights. These methods allow individuals to symbolically explore the afterlife and gain comfort with the unknown

Death and Dreaming

Dreams can serve as a bridge between the conscious mind and the mysteries of death. By exploring your dreams, you may uncover symbolic insights about transformation and the afterlife. Practices for death-dream exploration include:

Keeping a dream journal to track recurring themes of endings, rebirth, or encounters with deceased loved ones.
Reflecting on dream imagery that mirrors loss, transitions, or acceptance.

This dreamwork fosters a sense of curiosity about the mysteries that lie beyond physical life.

Walking Alongside Death

Befriending death is not a single event but a lifelong journey.

Through intentional practices like yoga nidra, plant medicine, breathwork, death education, and community service, we foster reverence for life's impermanence, cultivate emotional awareness, and deepen our understanding of death as an integral part of the human experience. In doing so, we learn that death is not merely an end but a teacher—a companion that invites us to live and love authentically.

Are you ready to take the first steps toward befriending death? Breathe. Reflect. Embrace the practices that speak to you and trust the wisdom that death offers.

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Sponsored by: Conscious Dying Collective

Conscious Dying Collective exists to raise global consciousness and cultivate diverse and compassionate communities, creating a culture that together explores the many facets of death to inspire positive change in end-of-life care and education. Offering end-of-life coach and doula certificate programs, along with enrichment courses that encourage deeper learning in the realm of end-of-life, Conscious Dying Collective attracts learners of all backgrounds and in all stages of life.

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