Frustration and Change Don’t Need to be Linked

How many times have you waited to end a relationship or a job until you were sick with stress? Did the frustration you carried around pour its way into the rest of your life like toxic sludge?

Am I being dramatic? Yes! That’s the point. We don’t really need all that drama and frustration in order to make a change. We are so used to being disempowered that we do not value our own opinions and we feel that we need some outside validation in order to make a change. The drama calls attention so your spouse agrees with you that your current job isn’t worth it … or your girlfriends agree that you should leave your husband. This happens all the time, but there is another option.

Start valuing your own opinion. Self appreciation and trust is a decision. You can decide today to start appreciating your health, time, and all of the other parts of you that can be affected when you stay in an unharmonious situation too long.

Another great side effect of trusting and valuing yourself is that other people will start to trust and value you. You teach people how to treat you, so just by making the effort in this direction, your circumstances will change. You may not have to leave the job or the relationship because how your boss and spouse relate to you will change as a result of your efforts.

If some little devils are popping up in your head right now saying things like, “no one understands what I put myself through to keep things together!” or “they’ll never change how they treat at me” just know that those voices are present in you because of where you are now, not where you will be if you change your self-perception and self-care.

If you start to notice some drama or frustration come up, ask yourself, “am I just trying to justify the fact that I don’t want this in my life?” If the answer is yes, give yourself permission to release it.

Two practices that can help you to disengage from drama and connect with your true desires are meditation and Intuitive Art. It’s often helpful to see these issues on paper, outside of your head, which is what Intuitive Art offers. It makes those issues more approachable and less judgment-filled. Meditation allows you a bigger buffer zone between what’s happening in your life and your reaction to it. These techniques combined arm you with more peace and confidence when it comes to decision making.

You can take a free Intuitive Art class here.