Question: I have a problem. I believe eating animals is immoral. When invited to dine with friends who eat meat, even though I’m not obligated to do so, should I accept their choice, or am I morally bound to chastise them?
Rabbi Rami: I suggest you chastise them, and do so loudly, self-righteously, and unceasingly. Make your friends so uncomfortable that they will never invite you to dine with them again which, thankfully, will solve your problem. And theirs.
I can’t believe I’m admitting this to you, but I’m in love with my priest, and obsess about him breaking his vow of celibacy, leaving the Church, and marrying me. Should I change parishes and never see him again?
I recommend four things before changing parishes. First, be grateful for the feeling: Some people never experience love—how wonderful that you do! Second, share your feelings with him. He may feel the same about you, and even if he doesn’t, talking with him may help you make peace with your feelings. Third, your love for this father may be a misdirected love for his Father; see if your priest can help you use your love of him to d …
Rabbi Rami Shapiro is an award-winning author, essayist, poet, and teacher. His spiritual advice column, "Roadside Assistance for the Spiritual Traveler," addresses reader questions pertaining to religion, spirituality, faith, family, God, social issues, and more.
He has this to say about religion: "To me, religions are like languages: no language is true or false; all languages are of human origin; each language reflects and shapes the mindset of the civilization that speaks it; there are things you can say in one language that you cannot say or cannot say as well in another; and the more languages you know, the more nuanced your understanding of life. Judaism is my mother tongue, yet in matters of the spirit I strive to be multi-lingual. In the end, however, the deepest language of the soul is silence."
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