Relationship Quiz: Are you a listener, good conversationalist, or a talker?

By far the most common complaint marriage counselors hear is the statement: “We can’t communicate.”

There are many reasons why communication stops or becomes superficial and brittle, including poor conflict resolution, problem solving, compromising and negotiating skills; withholding information; keeping secrets from each other and becoming defensive–to name a few. But one of the most overlooked reasons is because many of us have poor listening skills.

How well do you listen? Take this quiz adapted from Neil Rosenthal's book Love, Sex and Staying Warm: Keeping The Flame Alive to find out. For each question, choose which statement most often describes you.