When my husband and I talk about spirituality, he just doesn’t get it—yet I think he’s a spiritual person. Is there such a thing as male spirituality?Rabbi Rami: Yes and no. Spirituality is about practice, a disciplined effort to effect an alchemical transformation of our leaden egos into the gold of spirit. This effort requires study, meditation, chanting, prayer, bodywork, and a reclaiming of our psychological shadow. How men do these things may differ from how women do them, but the necessity of doing them is common to us all. If you want more insight into the male soul, read The Hidden Spirituality of Men by Matthew Fox, and From Wild Man to Wise Man by Richard Rohr.I’m a Jew, and I want my six-year-old daughter to know that she’s a Jew, but just what does that mean? I can’t find two Jews who agree!That is what it means to be a Jew: “Two Jews. Three opinions.” Jews are an ancient global family, and like all families we have lots of differing opinions about issues that matter to us, including how we define ourselves. Israeli novelist Amos Oz calls Judaism a civilization of argument and doubt. Jews qu …
Rabbi Rami Shapiro is an award-winning author, essayist, poet, and teacher. His spiritual advice column, "Roadside Assistance for the Spiritual Traveler," addresses reader questions pertaining to religion, spirituality, faith, family, God, social issues, and more.
He has this to say about religion: "To me, religions are like languages: no language is true or false; all languages are of human origin; each language reflects and shapes the mindset of the civilization that speaks it; there are things you can say in one language that you cannot say or cannot say as well in another; and the more languages you know, the more nuanced your understanding of life. Judaism is my mother tongue, yet in matters of the spirit I strive to be multi-lingual. In the end, however, the deepest language of the soul is silence."
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