I go out of my way to be hospitable to people, even people I don’t particularly like. Sounds right to me. I would suggest, however, that not only should you go out of your way, you might try getting out of your way as well.
Spiritual people are likely to be characteristically hospital because they tend to hold the belief that everyone is connected to each other, and to live their lives accordingly.
One classic gratitude study by psychologist Robert Emmons and his colleagues at the University of California, Davis, examined the effect of counting your blessings regularly.
Gratitude is one of the most satisfying spiritual practices I know. I receive so many gifts and blessings in my life, how can I not feel gratitude?
Our neural network memory record is being created by midbrain circuitries – most notably, the basal ganglia. These circuitries also sequence our thoughts and behaviors, and keep track of our energetic losses and gains as they are recorded in our memory networks over time.
The world's major spiritual traditions have long taught the value of forgiveness as a tool for freeing ourselves and others from the tyranny of past judgments and perceptions -- or misperceptions. The traditions may offer different rationales for why we should forgive, and different ways to go about it, but the ultimate goal is strikingly similar.
I agree that forgiveness is an integral part of spiritual life and spiritual living, but there is more to forgiveness than bestowing it, and that is asking for it. When we focus on forgiving others we set up a hierarchy of power: I, the giver of forgiveness, am superior to you, the one who needs my forgiveness.
The memory networks that make up our mind-brain contain energetic ‘cost-benefit’ information that informs us about how much behavioral energy we probably will need to expend in order to get a certain amount of gain in return.
I have an exercise. First, I try to imagine the moment when Moses met God on Mount Sinai, as described to me by a friend in the clergy. He told me of one interpretation of that moment: There was an instant when God's back was turned, and as he passed in front of Moses, just for a moment, Moses saw the world through God's eyes.
I know that compassion comes from the Latin meaning shared/com suffering/passion. But, honestly, why do I want to share someone's suffering? I have enough of my own. I mean I care about people and do what I can to be of help, but do I really have to suffer along with them?