A Cleansing Ritual: Making a Home Feel Good AgainBy:
By Patricia Eagle
Have you ever wondered what you could do to air out your home after a difficult argument, or following something unfortunate happening in your home, or just after making a move?
Home is where our hearts abide, and if there isn’t a healthy heartbeat in your house, it may be time for a little CPR.
For many of us, home is sacred ground, where we go to replenish our souls’ tanks. We need to feel safe there. We want to feel like our spirits can float through the roofs or believe our bodies can blend into the walls like we’re wearing Harry Potter’s invisibility cloak.
Magical thinking helps make home precious.
Gather friends and family for a deep cleansing. Observe when your home takes on the most sunlight, and try for that time of day. Explain what your intentions are with a very brief explanation of why you feel a cleansing is necessary. In other words, let everyone know the 'dirt’ they will be clearing out, but keep them focused on how you want your home to feel after this ritual.
Turn on sunny, upbeat music. Assign people to particular areas of the house, dispensing brooms, dustpans, dusting cloths, and small trashcans; window-cleaner and paper towels; and spritzers with a mix of rosemary, lavender, and water. Explain the symbolism of sweeping and brushing up the grit, and emptying anything into the trashcans, even if dustpans are empty. Cleaning windows isn’t about creating meticulously spotless panes, but more about offering clarity and fresh views. Encourage spraying the aromatic spray in room corners with a flourish, like a fairy godmother casting a spell to create Cinderella’s carriage.
Afterwards, come together in the family room or kitchen. Light a candle, even if it’s noon. If the weather’s cold and you have a wood stove or fireplace, light a fire. Serve something directly out of the oven that fills your home with delicious smells. Let a tea-kettle sing. Pour coffee, tea, lemonade, wine, or pop beer tops. Invite everyone to share stories and special memories about your home, or about homes they have known and loved. Have photos on display of people that have lived or will be living in your home. Say their names out loud as a way to bring them present, and share stories about them and homes.
Lastly, ask everyone to gather around the outside of your house. Carefully pass a roll of string, yarn, or be elegant and use ribbon, and pretend whatever you use is real silk. Tie ends until you have a delicate ‘web’ of new energy surrounding your brightened home, tying together the final strands, and lovingly chant “hOMMMMe!”
Patricia Eagle loves her new 100 year-old home. She just moved to Alamosa, Colorado and swears that this is her last home, having moved more than 30 times in her life. “Every home needs a deep, welcoming cleanse,” she believes, “for life to more joyfully fill its walls.” Patricia is a certified wedding and funeral celebrant, delivering ceremonies throughout Colorado and northern New Mexico. Nesting with Patricia are her beloved spouse and two feisty dogs. You can reach Patricia at firstname.lastname@example.org.