I just started to see someone new. Even though we’ve only been dating about a month, we see each other almost every day and talk on the phone all the time. I really want to keep seeing her, but I’m afraid things are moving a little too fast.
The Spiritual Girl's Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex and Soul Mates
By Amy Leigh Mercree
My husband and I met while I was on Maui on vacation and spent the next five months on the phone, back in the pre-Internet days. While “dating” long distance between Maui and California, we decided to ask a lot of questions to see if we were really compatible. (This is how my book, Intellectual Foreplay: Questions for Lovers and Lovers-to-Be was conceived.) Initially, I was focused on asking the right questions, paying close attention to his answers, trying to determine if he was the right partner for me.
I stare at the blank form on the website — the one that invites me to open my heart and pursue my soul mate via a labyrinth stocked with eligible men. I breeze through the questionnaire: How “green” am I? What are my spiritual beliefs? What is my ayurvedic type?
This one give me pause. What did I learn in that Vedic astrology session … ? Oh yes! Happily, I type the word p-i-t-t-a in the space. But what exactly does that mean? I could not recall, so I hit Google. Pitta is “ambitious by nature but also can be demanding and abrasive.”
Why do I constantly pick bad boys or men who are destined to hurt me eventually?? I’m not attracted to nice guys at all—the ones who might stick around and who I could probably build a future with. I just don’t feel the chemistry with them. I want to get out of this syndrome but don’t know how. Do other girls have this problem?